Big Drinkers; Big Quitters
Big Drinkers, Big Quitters: What we share on the path to change
There’s an undeniable thread that connects me to both men and women who find themselves drinking more than they’d like. It’s a shared experience, one rooted in the complexities of striving, feeling, and simply trying to navigate life’s chaos. Over the years, I’ve come to recognise how these commonalities shape not only our struggles but also our desire for change. I wonder if you share these too?
At the heart of it is the constant striving. For so many of us, there’s a relentless desire to be more, do more, and achieve more. Whether it’s in our careers, relationships, or personal growth, we’re always chasing an elusive sense of accomplishment. Alcohol often becomes a companion in this pursuit—a way to celebrate milestones or soothe the frustration of falling short. It’s this shared drive that makes me feel a kinship with those who drink to fuel their ambition or quiet their self-doubt.
Then there’s the need to keep going, no matter what. The world expects us to smile and carry on, to push through exhaustion and bury emotions that might slow us down. For me, as for many others, drinking became a way to meet this expectation. It’s a temporary pause button, a means to suppress feelings we’re too busy to process. This resilience—both admirable and damaging—is something I see reflected in the lives of so many who drink to keep moving forward.
Alcohol also becomes a tool for emotional regulation. Whether it’s used to push down emotions that feel too overwhelming or to release ones we’ve kept bottled up, it serves a dual purpose. I’ve felt the relief temporary balm that keeps us held in emotional stagnancy.
But for those of us who desire to drink less, there’s an equally powerful connection. It begins with the knowledge that there’s something more—a deeper sense of fulfilment and peace waiting beyond the glass. I've witnessed that “fork in the road” moment in so many of my clients a realisation that alcohol isn’t the answer but it is a clue that we seeking something more. For me, it was the dawning awareness that alcohol was keeping me stagnant, holding me in abeyance when I wanted to move forward.
There’s also the recognition that alcohol can add fuel to the chaos. Instead of providing relief, it often amplifies the very stress and anxiety we’re trying to escape. This realisation, though painful, is a turning point. It’s the moment we begin to see how life could be different—calmer, clearer, and more aligned with our true selves. I know I am a more peaceful person without alcohol, and that this peace is worth pursuing.
A turning point for me was the knowledge that many of the expectations I placed on myself were self-imposed and I had the choice to let many of them go and replace them with ones that spark joy. This is still a WIP.
For many of us, the decision to drink less is deeply tied to our health goals and values. Whether it’s about being a better role model for our children or simply living in alignment with our beliefs, it’s a choice that feels both empowering and necessary. This shared commitment to growth and authenticity is something I find inspiring in others and strive for in myself.
🌍 Ultimately, what connects us is the desire for change—the hope that life can be better, richer, and more meaningful without alcohol. It’s a journey that requires courage, self-compassion, and a willingness to face the hard truths about ourselves. And while it’s not always easy, it’s a path worth walking. Because in the end, it’s not just about drinking less; it’s about living more.
Only 7 more days!
In 7 days, as 1 Feb arrives, I will stop advertising the start date of my challenge (stay with me!). Marketing is hard. I'm not a big fan of it, but I believe in this challenge. It is a terrific gateway to a long-lasting healthier relationship with alcohol.
This 6-Week Alcohol-Free Challenge small group program is designed to help you take a meaningful break from alcohol, redefine your habits, and start 2025 with clarity and purpose.
Exciting News! In addition to the fabulous guests below, Psychologist and Untoxicated Founder, Faye Lawrence, will join us to talk about embracing a new social identity when giving up alcohol and how to go about it. My other guests:
Maz Compton – Breakfast radio host, author of Last Drinks, and an inspiring sober motivator.
Dr. Shami – Integrative GP and host of the Six Hats Podcast, discussing alcohol’s impact on peri-menopause and weight gain (I’ll definitely be taking notes!).
Trish Tucker May – Nutritionist and gut health specialist, guiding us on healing the gut and balancing hormones post-alcohol.
Seana Smith – Author of Going Under, a compelling memoir of family secrets, addiction, and sobriety.
Click here or or on my web for all the details and to join us. I can’t wait to see you there!
Warm regards
Isabella
